How do we “talk” diabetes with those who mean well but don’t live with the daily ins and outs of management?
Consider the following scenarios that we have all had to address:
- It’s only your second week at work. It is the one day this week you’re “going in” to the office. The occlusion alarm beeps on the pump, no delivery, call tech support, the list goes on.
- OR-you made it off the train just in time to grab a coffee before the first call of the day, only to find out that not only was the meeting moved to being virtual, but your newly inserted CGM on your arm brushed someone else’s giant commuter bag and ripped it off. Grrrrr…..
- What about that grandmother at the first holiday party that’s been in person in 3 years. She makes a comment (insert eyeroll) about “how’s your diabetes, you able to control that now with the pump?”
We all want to go into rage mode right about now…am I right?
The truth is at the end of the day, *most* people like our friends, family, and colleagues, genuinely do care, they just don’t know how to approach the situation. We are now faced with the sticky conundrum of how to respond appropriately without jeopardizing our relationships and our jobs.
This all goes back to roles and boundaries. WE are the captains of our own diabetes team.
WE live with it and complete ALLLL the hundreds of daily tasks and decisions throughout the day. Our role is to manage and to educate others as needed.
THEIR role is to be the supporter, the occasional question asker, etc. It is up to us, the PWD to determine how, when, and how often we discuss diabetes. Here are a few ways to think about being the captain for your diabetes management in discussions with those we encounter day to day be it friend, family or co-worker.
** Legally it is not required for you to disclose your diagnosis in an interview.
Remember – you can’t control someone else’s reaction, you can only control how you respond – that’s what gives you confidence and maintains your diabetes team captain status! You got this! If you don’t know where to start and feel you’d like to discuss with a team that can help you feel confident in sharing your diabetes story or needs with others, let us know.
The team at Integrated Diabetes Services is well-versed in the language of diabetes to give you some stepping stones to Captain your management successfully.